Are You Living Your Life or Someone Else’s

Published 2025-12-27 07-36

Summary

Feeling like you’re doing everything right but living someone else’s life? Chapter 7 tackles autopilot mode, individuation, and relearning—without the motivational fluff.

The story

Ever feel like you are “doing all the right things” and still somehow living someone else’s life?

That glitch has a name: *autopilot*. Chapter 7 of my book, *The Journey, I Wish I Knew This Before I Was 21*, is about self-directed growth, not motivational confetti.

It starts with *individuation*: building a self that is uniquely yours, not a socially approved template. Schools often train conformity. Your life, however, does not run on a standardized test.

The core move is Alvin Toffler’s idea: learn to *unlearn and relearn*. Not just stacking skills, but deleting the buggy beliefs you installed at age 9 and never updated.

From there, you refactor the code:
Self-education. Changed thinking. New habits. Action. Dream building. Persistence. Self-talk management. Learning from failure. Finding purpose. Then repeating the cycle like a sane person, not like a robot.

Chapter 7 also leans on two “un-sexy” principles that still run the universe:
The *Law of the Harvest*, you reap what you sow.
*Natural Law*, actions come with built-in consequences.

And yes, visualization matters. Your Reticular Activating System notices what you train it to notice. Can you imagine aiming that at your actual dream?

If you want a chapter that challenges your conditioning without shaming you for being human, start with Chapter 7.

Attila B. Horvath

This post was inspired by Chapter 7 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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Keywords: #criticalthinking, autopilot mode, individuation, relearning