Unlearning School: Your Twenties’ Hidden Opportunity
Published 2025-06-26 13-20
Summary
School teaches you to fit in, but real growth starts when you question everything you’ve been told to accept. Most people follow the template and wonder why they feel empty. Your twenties are when you can still course-correct.
The story
What I just learned writing the first two chapters of “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” completely changed how I see education and growing up.
Here’s what nobody tells you: school isn’t designed to help you become yourself. It’s designed to make you fit in. Same worksheets, same tests, same “right” answers for everyone.
But real growth happens when you start questioning everything you’ve been taught to accept without thinking.
I spent years following the prescribed path – good grades, safe choices, other people’s definitions of success. Then I realized I was living someone else’s dream while my own dreams collected dust.
The biggest breakthrough came when I understood that self-actualization isn’t some mystical concept. It’s practical. You examine your beliefs honestly. You figure out what you actually want, not what you think you should want. You start taking action aligned with your real values.
Most people never do this work. They graduate, get jobs, follow the template, and wonder why they feel empty inside.
Critical self-examination sounds scary, but it’s freeing. When you start unlearning the limiting beliefs that were handed to you, you create space for who you actually are.
The education system taught us to be passive receivers of information. But real learning is active. It’s asking why. It’s building your own understanding. It’s having the courage to disagree with authorities when your inner wisdom says otherwise.
Your twenties are when you can still course-correct before life gets complicated. That’s why I wrote these chapters – to share what I wish someone had told me at 21 about thinking for yourself and building a life that actually fits who you are.
This post was inspired by Chapters 1-2 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.
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Keywords: UnlearnAndRelearn, personal growth, life questioning, self-discovery
