Are You Living Someone Else’s Script Today

Published 2026-01-01 07-27

Summary

Growth isn’t about piling on credentials—it’s about questioning the autopilot beliefs you never chose. Chapter 7 explores self-directed change, unlearning, and becoming yourself.

The story

Ever notice how you can get a degree, a job title, and a LinkedIn smile, then still feel like a rented apartment in your own life?

That is the glitch Chapter 7 of *The Journey, I wish I knew this before I was 21* tries to refactor.

Here’s the uncomfortable, liberating idea: growth is rarely about adding more skills on top of the same old operating system. It is about *changed thinking*. Questioning autopilot beliefs. Unlearning patterns that were installed by school, culture, and well-meaning people who confused conformity with competence.

Can you imagine if your “personality” is partly just conditioning with good marketing?

Chapter 7 walks through self-directed growth: self-education outside formal systems, small daily habits that compound, action over credential-waiting, and persistence that outlasts talent. Also, the inner dialogue matters. Self-talk is not “woo”; it is the narration your brain uses to decide what’s possible.

I also cover dream building and visualization, not as magic, but as focus training. When you repeatedly aim your attention, your subconscious and your Reticular Activating System start filtering life toward that aim.

Failure? It is not a verdict. It is feedback with sharp edges.

And uniqueness? Jung called it individuation: becoming a self, not a product.

If you want a growth mindset that is practical, a little contrarian, and very you, Chapter 7 is waiting.

This post was inspired by Chapter 7 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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Keywords: #SelfDiscovery, self-directed change, unlearning, questioning beliefs