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Break Free From Following Rules Into Real Growth
Published 2025-12-22 06-36
Summary
You follow all the rules but still feel stuck. Chapter 7 breaks down self-education, better thinking, deliberate habits, and building purpose—practical steps to grow past the classroom ceiling.
The story
Before: You do “everything right” and still feel behind.
Degree, job, hustle, LinkedIn smile. Yet your brain runs like buggy code: overthinking, under-starting, waiting for permission from people who do not live in your body.
I wrote *The Journey, What I wished I knew before I was 21* because I kept noticing a quiet trap: formal education is great at serving society’s needs, and not always great at serving your *growth*.
After: You treat your life like a self-directed build.
Not rebellion for rebellion’s sake, more like… refactoring.
In Chapter 7, I walk through the shift that changed everything for me:
• Self-education past the classroom ceiling.
• Changed thinking and tighter self-talk, because thoughts are powerful little gremlins.
• New habits, action, and persistence, the “Law of the Harvest” vibe, consistent effort before results show up.
• Dream building with visualization, using your subconscious and your Reticular Activation System to filter for your goals.
• Failure as data, not a courtroom.
• Purpose built on virtues like desire, trust, belief, gratitude, and outgrowing fear.
This is individuation: becoming uniquely you, on purpose, not by accident. William James said attitude shapes life. That idea still hits.
If you want a practical, slightly contrarian roadmap, my book is 86 pages, published 2017 by Outskirts Press, ISBN 9781478781363.
This post was inspired by my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.
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Keywords: #LevelUpYourLife, self-education, deliberate habits, building purpose





