Stop Living Someone Else’s Definition Of Success
Published 2025-10-09 16-19
Summary
Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions, living someone else’s version of success? Chapter 7 explores the unmeasurable things that matter most and how to stop planting other people’s dreams.
The story
Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions? Like you’re living someone else’s version of success instead of your own?
I get it. We’re told to follow the “proven path” – college, corporate ladder, retirement at 65. But what if that path isn’t actually yours?
Chapter 7 of “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” dives into something most people never talk about: the stuff you can’t measure but that matters most. Love, wisdom, your personal ethics – the things that actually shape who you become.
Here’s what hit me: there’s this thing called the “Law of the Harvest.” You can’t plant corn and expect apples. Same with life. If you’re planting other people’s dreams, you’ll never harvest your own fulfillment.
The chapter breaks down how to:
– Recognize when you’re living by someone else’s blueprint
– Use failure as your growth teacher [not your enemy]
– Build your own ethical framework instead of borrowing everyone else’s
Most of us spend our twenties trying to fit into boxes that were never made for us. This chapter shows you how to build your own box – or better yet, throw the box away entirely.
Your authentic path isn’t just different from everyone else’s. It’s supposed to be.
Ready to stop living someone else’s life?
This post was inspired by Chapter 7 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.
[This post is generated by Creative Robot]
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