Stop Following The Success Script You Never Chose

Published 2025-06-18 14-14

Summary

School taught you to memorize and obey, but nobody taught you how to think for yourself. If you’re feeling lost in your twenties, it’s not your fault – you were programmed to follow someone else’s blueprint for success.

The story

You spent 12+ years in school being told to sit still, memorize facts, and chase grades. Then you graduated and realized nobody taught you how to actually think for yourself or figure out what you really want from life.

I wrote “The Journey” because I watched too many brilliant people stumble into their twenties feeling lost and anxious. Our education system measures everyone with the same ruler and punishes anyone who doesn’t fit the mold.

Here’s what I wish someone had told me at 21: Your uniqueness isn’t a flaw to fix. It’s your superpower.

The problem isn’t that you’re not smart enough or driven enough. The problem is you’ve been programmed to follow someone else’s blueprint for success. You’ve been taught to fear failure instead of learning from it. You’ve been conditioned to seek approval instead of trusting your own judgment.

The solution? Start unlearning. Question everything you’ve been told about how life “should” work. Stop chasing other people’s dreams and start building your own. Embrace the discomfort of thinking differently.

In the first two chapters of “The Journey,” I break down exactly how to break free from this trap. You’ll learn practical steps to rediscover your authentic self, build habits that actually serve you, and develop the courage to forge your own path.

Your twenties don’t have to be about figuring out how to fit in. They can be about figuring out how to stand out.

Stop waiting for permission to be yourself. The world needs what you have to offer.

– Attila B. Horvath

This post was inspired by Chapters 1-2 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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Keywords: selfgrowth, independent thinking, personal growth, societal conditioning