Escape The Approval Trap And Define Your Success

Published 2025-06-11 08-48

Summary

Are you stuck on life’s checklist treadmill? School taught us to seek approval, not fulfillment. Learn to define success on your own terms instead of society’s expectations.

The story

Ever feel like life’s a checklist we’re all expected to complete? Graduate. Get the job. Buy the house. Repeat.

I’ve been researching how our education system trains us for conformity rather than self-discovery. Schools condition us to chase grades and approval instead of genuine learning and growth.

The real problem extends beyond classrooms – we carry these patterns into adulthood, measuring our worth by external standards rather than personal fulfillment.

True self-actualization isn’t a destination – it’s an ongoing process of questioning, unlearning and discovering what actually matters to YOU.

The solution begins with finding your intrinsic motivation – your personal “why” that exists independently of others’ expectations or approval.

What I wish I’d known earlier: Individuality isn’t about rejecting education, but transforming your relationship with learning. It’s shifting from “Did I pass their test?” to “Am I becoming who I want to be?”

The system won’t change overnight, but your approach to it can change today. What does success truly mean to YOU?

If you’re curious about breaking free from conformity and finding your authentic path, check out Chapters 1-2 of my book “The Journey – I Wish I Knew This Before I Was 21.”

This post was inspired by Chapters 1-2 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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Keywords: UnlearnAndRelearn, personal success, life purpose, societal expectations