Why Does Success Feel Like Someone Else’s Dream

Published 2025-12-13 07-26

Summary

The “stable path” was built for compliance, not you. Chapters 1-2 show how to spot where you’re performing vs. where your real curiosity lives—and what to do about it.

The story

What if the “stable path” you’re chasing was never designed for *you* – only for your compliance?

We get handed this script early:
good grades → respectable job → climb the ladder → try not to ask scary questions.

Chapters 1–2 of my book, “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21,” are my polite-but-firm refusal to keep playing along.

I walk you through individuation in real-life terms:
spotting where you’re performing for parents, bosses, or LinkedIn… and where your actual curiosity and values are trying to sneak through the cracks.

We look at:

The Old Way [Default Script]
– Conform, memorize, impress
– Chase status, titles, and “looking successful”
– Let school and culture define what matters

The New Way [Your Journey]
– Question inherited beliefs about success and money
– Treat learning as self-directed play, not obligation
– Build habits around your own long-term vision

You’ll experiment with:
– Seeing failure as data, not identity
– Swapping harsh self-talk for constructive inner dialogue
– Tiny daily actions toward *your* projects, not generic goals

I’m not offering a magic purpose-generator. I’m inviting you to build purpose through action, reflection, and a lot of unlearning/relearning.

If you’re a young professional who feels “successful on paper” but oddly disconnected, these first two chapters are my starting kit for you.

Curious what happens when you stop faking success and start designing a life that actually fits?
Grab or listen to Chapters 1–2 of “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21.”

This post was inspired by Chapters 1-2 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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Keywords: #SelfActualization
, curiosity, compliance, performance