Stop Living Someone Else’s Life Today

Published 2025-11-28 07-37

Summary

Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions, living someone else’s idea of what your life should be? Most of us lose touch with what makes us unique after years of conformity.

The story

Ever feel like you’re just going through the motions? Like you’re living someone else’s idea of what your life should be?

I used to think success meant following the path everyone else took – good grades, stable job, check all the boxes. But something felt off. I wasn’t living my life. I was living a template.

That’s the problem most of us face. We spend years in schools that reward conformity over creativity. We’re taught what to think, not how to think. By the time we hit our 20s, we’ve lost touch with what makes us unique.

Here’s what I learned the hard way: Your individuality isn’t just some feel-good concept. It’s your competitive advantage. William James said it best – your attitude shapes your life. But you can’t develop a genuine attitude when you’re busy copying everyone else.

In Chapters 1-2 of “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21,” I break down why recognizing your uniqueness matters and how to actually use it. I talk about individuation – developing yourself apart from what society expects. I share real examples, like how a vision board I made in 1995 led me to buy the exact house years later. Not magic. Just clarity about what I actually wanted.

The book challenges you to question everything you learned and use your own uniqueness as the filter. Because 90% of everything is mediocre anyway [that’s Spurgeon’s Law]. Why waste time on paths that work for other people but not for you?

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re playing someone else’s game, check out the first two chapters. They might just change how you see yourself.

This post was inspired by Chapters 1-2 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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