Stop Following Scripts Start Becoming Yourself

Published 2025-10-21 22-18

Summary

The script wasn’t written for me – it was written for a system that needs predictable workers, not fulfilled individuals. I stopped asking “What should I do?” and started asking “Who am I becoming?”

The story

I used to think success meant following the script: good grades, stable job, societal approval. Check the boxes, climb the ladder, don’t rock the boat.

Then I realized the script wasn’t written for me. It was written for a system that needs predictable workers, not fulfilled individuals.

Our education system teaches us what to think, not how to think. It prioritizes conformity over creativity. We’re measured by how well we fit the mold, not by how authentically we express our unique qualities.

Carl Jung called it individuation – the process of becoming who you actually are, not who everyone expects you to be. Most people never start this journey because they’re too busy living someone else’s version of success.

The shift happened when I stopped asking “What should I do?” and started asking “Who am I becoming?”

Self-education replaced passive learning. I questioned everything I’d been taught about what makes a life meaningful. I built new habits that served my growth, not my resume. I learned to see failure as feedback, not defeat.

The truth nobody tells you at twenty-one: the conventional path leads to a conventional life. And conventional lives are rarely fulfilling.

You have to be willing to disappoint some people. You have to choose personal truth over social acceptance. You have to build your own definition of success.

This isn’t about rebellion for its own sake. It’s about discovering your purpose and having the courage to pursue it, even when it doesn’t make sense to anyone else.

The life you’re living – is it genuinely yours?

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This post was inspired by Chapters 1-2 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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Keywords: SelfActualization, personal fulfillment, self-discovery, breaking conformity