Stop Chasing Dreams That Aren’t Yours

Published 2025-11-26 14-21

Summary

Most of us chase what looks good on paper instead of figuring out what we actually want. Real fulfillment comes from building your own dreams, not copying someone else’s.

The story

Most of us spend our twenties chasing what everyone else wants. The right job title. The impressive salary. The life that looks good on paper.

Here’s the problem: we’re so busy following the script that we forget to ask if it’s even our script to follow.

I spent years doing exactly this. Checking boxes. Meeting expectations. And wondering why success felt so empty.

The truth? Real fulfillment doesn’t come from copying someone else’s dream. It comes from the messy, uncomfortable work of figuring out what YOU actually want.

That’s what Chapter 7 of “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” is all about. It’s not another productivity hack or morning routine. It’s about building your dreams from scratch, based on who you truly are, not who you think you should be.

The solution isn’t complicated, but it does require something most people avoid: honest self-reflection. You have to get clear on your strengths. Challenge the assumptions you’ve been carrying around. And be willing to unlearn the stuff that’s holding you back.

Because here’s what I’ve learned: the gap between where you are and where you want to be isn’t about working harder. It’s about thinking differently. It’s about having the courage to build something that’s yours, even when it doesn’t match what everyone else is doing.

Your twenties are for experimentation, not perfection. For finding your voice, not echoing others.

If you’re tired of living someone else’s version of success, Chapter 7 might be exactly what you need right now.

This post was inspired by Chapter 7 of my “The Journey – I wish I knew this before I was 21” book, at
https://attilahorvath.net/the-journey.

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